Top 10 Rules For Meeting Someone On The First Date!
BY BART SMITH, AUTHOR OF B.S. THE BOOK Ever been on a first date? Of course you have! Well, whenever you do have (another) first date, here are the rules:
(1) Hush up or in some rare cases speak up. Too many people nervously ramble on and on and on at the mouth. The other person, new to meeting you, can't get a word in edge-wise 'cause you're doing all the talking. Hush up. Let someone else share in the conversation.
(2) Relax. There's no reason to be nervous.
(3) Be patient. Good things come to those who wait. Don't rush things.
(4) Ask questions. Find out about the other person. Ask them to tell you about their favorite topic: THEMSELF! This will give you the opportunity to learn about this person. Do you want to continue seeing this person? They'll let you know by what they say, how they say it, etc. If you're doing all the talking, you're not learning about the other person. And, if you don't ask questions, you're communicating to them that you don't think whatever they might have to say is important!
(5) Show Interest. With the proper eye contact, your attention should be on the person you're with. Not the waiter, the people sitting over in the corner or the people walking across the street.
(6) Encourage to person you're with. Be positive. You don't know what kind of "bad day" this person's had. And, you certainly don't know what's been going on in their life. They could turn out to be a single parent or recently divorced! Be positive about their life!
(7) Let things unfold naturally. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.
(8) If it's not for you, bow out gracefully. Don't be rude. Use your best mamma manners. Be polite, show respect and be gentle. This person you've just met might really like you. Be kind to their spirit.
[Sex on the first date? Guys, if you have to ask for this, then there's something wrong. Don't. Just let it be. If it happens, when it happens, it will. Relax.]
(9) If things ARE going in the direction you want them to go, then proceed slowly. Again, good things come to those who wait. Enjoy the "getting to know you" process. Anticipation for "what's next" is always more exciting than "let's do it, right now."
(10) When I first came up with my Top 10 Rules For Meeting Someone On A First Date, I only came up with nine. So, I thought to make #10 go like this … "Always follow Rules 1 through 9."
