Choose Your Life Mate Well So Your Marriage Will Last!
BY BART SMITH, AUTHOR OF B.S. THE BOOK "I now pronounce you husband and wife!" Wow, those words are life-moving, aren't they? Yes, when it comes to getting married, and finding your soul mate, choose your life's mate carefully. Here's how and why …
- From this one decision, will come 90% of all your happiness or misery …
- Be your mate’s best friend, get out and do things …
- Never forget your anniversary (she won’t) …
- Never walk out on a quarrel with your mate …
- Choose someone who will help make the marriage work …
- Choose someone who is considerate and kind …
- Choose someone who is slow to anger …
- Choose someone who lives life passionately like you …
- Choose someone who will be a good mother or father …
Say, a few quick thoughts about the "wedding ceremony" and a few tips on overcoming just a ’lil’ potential "wedding B.S."
- Your wedding should be a joyous occasion, not a financial nightmare. Try not to get too caught up in spending tooo much money on your wedding. Save some of it for the honeymoon or a down payment on that house you two want to move into.
- Do enjoy yourselves on this very special occasion, while remaining "grounded" … Don’t let your emotions run tooo far away from "reality." After the honeymoon is over, so will be the fairy tell. Be prepared, when reality returns, life will return to normal and the whole wedding will seem more like a dream.
- Try not to get distracted with all the preparations. Don’t let all the commotion of planning your wedding day overwhelm your common sense and ability to communicate between each other. Watch for bickering, little arguments and tiny, pointless fingerpointing sessions. Both of you need to listen to each other during the planning stages. You’re both starring in it!
- Avoid the hype. Invite a few close and wonderful friends and the parents to share in on this very special occasion; to enjoy a wonderful celebration of heart and soul. Downsize your plans (if necessary) by 40-60%. It’s the day that makes it everlasting, not the color of the table clothes. It’s the pictures that make memories, not the wine they serve.
- Watch out for "postal-bride" depression. Also known as "Honeymoon Hangover" … Yep, back to work. Reality sets in and it all seemed like a fantasy. Where’d it go? "I’m so depressed. The fantasy is over. What do we do now?" … Try living!
- Better to plan your new "life" together with the same energy you do for the wedding. Extend that joy out a few years.
These insights are shared with you with the intentions of hopefully preventing another statistic … Record numbers of marriages are ending in divorce (within 5 years). Love does not conquer all and neither does throwing money at a wedding. "Starter marriages" are B.S. Those are marriages where folks get married, then divorce soon, with the idea that they’ll "marry up." What a load of bull. Think about it, why waste all that energy, all that time preparing, all that money (down the drain) if you’re with the wrong person? Wouldn’t be better to just "wait"? Oh my, what a concept!
