Guys: Personal Wisdom From Me To You …
BY BART SMITH, AUTHOR OF B.S. THE BOOK What else is there to know about relationships, finding the woman of your dreams, dating/marrying the woman of your dreams and more? Read on …
- A good woman, he who can find her; her price is beyond diamonds and gold. Take care of her when you meet her, and she’ll stay with you for the rest of your life. Mess up your relationship with her, chase other women, think the grass is greener on the other side and you’ll be eatin’ grass all by your lonesome … Think twice before leaving a really good woman. If she has 60% of what every man needs in a woman (i.e., she loves you with all her heart, she loves to care for you, she might also love cookin’ a good and nurishin’ meal for ya, she smiles every time she sees your face, she can hold a job and contribute to your dreams and life, she’s responsible for the decisions she makes, she’s a good mother (or the makings of) and she loves taking care of herself just for you … my friend, don’t lose her! She’s a keeper. Don’t let go!)
- On another note, never make her feel alone in this world. It’s easy for us guys to handle “being alone.” Not for long, but we can handle it much better than are female mates. So, be attentive to her needs, seek her out during the day, check in with her often/daily, send her a smile, an eMail a gesture that you’re thinking about her. Those things are important. Listen, ask questions, say just a little …
- All the tools you need to win her heart – you already possess. You just have to cultivate them. Some more than others. But, so what! It’s so worth it! Win her over with sheer magnetism, charisma and loving, yet seductive conversation … never by force, trickery or deception.
- In the beginning, when you’re starting out, keep these thoughts in mind … “It’s all about her. Her pleasure comes first … You’ll get yours after she gets hers.” Give her 100% of your love in the beginning; she’ll give you 100% of her love right after! It’s a wonderful trade off, that’s the way it works.
- It’s not the place that makes a good time – it’s the PERSON that make things fun. Keep them thinking about you.
- The way to get compliments is to earn them. Then, don’t expect them. If you have to flex it, it’s not there. There’s more power in someone else tooting your horn than you doing it yourself.
- Go to bed with your woman every night. If you’re frequently working late, occasionally is all right. But, more than three nights a week? Unless you’ve working on a (new) project that definitely has an end-date in your near future, consider changing jobs, improving your education so you can make more money working less time. Remember, work less, work smart, love (her) more, and live life smart. If you’re working late, it’s a sign you don’t make enough money, or you’re stuck in a rut, and emotionally, you have to get out of it. Try quitting. I’m kidding. Don’t do that. Rather, delegate. Hire others to help you. Interns work for free you know. Get them to help you – they could use the college credit and/or the experience.
- Be open; encourage communication between the two of you. Don’t argue and don’t “close up” to her. Share your feelings with her. Sooner or later, they’re bound to come out anyway.
