Guys, Develop These Innate Qualities About You

BY BART SMITH, AUTHOR OF B.S. THE BOOK

Guys, for her sake and for the fact that you love her, develop these innate qualities about you. When you do, she'll fall head over heels in love with you all over again and for the rest of your life! Now, what man doesn't want a woman like that in his life? You bet … 

Protection: Protect your woman in all ways under the sun. Keep your eyes and ears open, your radar up and listening to hear her cry out for you when she needs you. She may call out to you with her voice, she may use gestures, she might leave clues with her body, with her mind, even the tonality in her voice can give you signs that she needs you. Be ready, be listening and be there (for her).

Strength: Show an internal, confident strength that needs no explanation or discussion. She sees it in you she feels it in you, in the way you treat her, in the way you look at her, in the way you look out for her, and in the ways you live your life for her (in your mind, in your heart and in your spirit).

Instincts: Cultivate and listen more and more to your instincts. Listen to that voice inside you when it comes to those unspoken signals and emotional messages your woman sends you. You’ll know if you’re misbehaving, if she’s hurt by something you said or did if you’ll just listen to your instincts and what your heart tells you. All you have to do is check in from time to time on a daily basis. Just ask yourself this question (mentally) and then be quiet to hear the answer: “How is she feeling today? How can I make her feel better?” Trust me, your heart knows the answer. Listen to it. Ask the question, then be quiet, and listen for your “heart” to answer. It’s never wrong. It knows what’s best for you.

Eye Contact … I can’t begin to tell you how important it is to maintain excellent eye contact with others, especially, your sweetie. This is so, whether you’re in bed together, making close ’n’ cozy love and the both of you just happen to catch a long amorous gaze into each other’s eyes that seems like forever (i.e., some of the best moments in life you’ll ever experience with her … ) or you’re actually speaking to her or listening to what she might have to say to you. Eye contact is everything. Eye contact is the easiest indication (for her) to tell how interested you really are in her, again, whether you’re talking to her or she has something to say to you and it’s your turn to listen. Keep your eyes on her eyes at all times!

As a side note, have you ever noticed when a woman speaks to a man, her eyes have no problem looking straight into his? Why is that? And yet, the man, on the other hand, … where do you think his eyes go? Typically, all around and upside down and only on occasion (trying) to focus in on her … Uh, I mean on her “eyes!” Thus, providing equal eye contact (and interest) in return. Many women find this very discomforting. As they might say to themselves, throughout the conversation, “Is he listening to me? What is he looking at? I’m up here, not down there …” 

Remember, “visual attention” or “eyes looking into her eyes” is sexy! And, what’s even sexier is how well you look right into her eyes and for as long as you can without looking at any other part of loving part of her body! It’s all in her eyes, my friend. 

Your eyes (looking into hers) can really help her feel desired, important, appreciated, loved and sexy without you opening your mouth to say a single word or lifting a finger to say, “Come here …” You can say all those things with your eyes! 

Become A Great Listener … Listen to every word and wonderful sound that flows from her body and from within the depths of her mind, her heart and her soul and through her very lips. With love and sincerity, just wonder to yourself (for instance, when you wake up in the morning) … “Gee, I wonder what words will come out of her mouth first? She is alive and with thoughts of her own. I’m curious … what will she say next? I will say nothing and only wait to hear what she has to say!” 

While you’re listening, watch the way she speaks. Watch the way her mouth moves to enunciate every sound. Imagine every one of her words and how connected they are with her mind, her heart, her intent … Watch her mouth open and close … and when she’s done, watch her smile! She’s speaking to you. She’s your honey, she’s your one and only! Watch, listen and learn …

“I never knew how to worship until I knew how to love.”
– Henry Ward Beecher

Lovingly, become her servant. Now, let me first qualify this … I actually have a saying for and with the one I truly love, and it goes like this … “Honey, make me your servant …” Right back, she’s hastes not to reply, “No, my dear, make ME your servant …” Then, my reply back to her would be … “Honey, let us serve each other …” That’s the attitude you should acquire … A loving, devoted, giving, “into her” kind of attitude that only turns you both into each other’s life loving-servants of pure love.

Protect Motherhood: She is a woman. She was designed and created to create that which makes the entire human race carry on from the dawn of time, ’til the day eternity calls all our names to the grave. It is our duty to protect her. Respect her; care for her in nurturing ways, during and throughout all times of motherhood. Remember? We all have mother, we all came from mother. Your wife or girlfriend may be a mother. Respect that about her. Be positive; encourage her; support her emotionally. What she goes through, we will never know, as men. She is alone (at times) in this role. Be there for her; be available to her, when she needs your support. Love your wife (or your girlfriend) with the highest degree of respect and care.

Don’t do things to or for her merely to impress her. Do things for her, because you want to, because you love her and because you care about her. She’ll love that quality about you immensely.

Sensitive & Caring: Show her how much you care. Be sensitive to the things that are important to her. Be caring in the many ways you think about her on a regular and consistent basis.

Warm up to your woman easily by showing her respect, being patient, relaxing and keeping the conversation “around her” and all that interests her. In this way, get into her. After all that, if she’s interested in you – she’ll want to get to know you (’cause you were so kind to give her all that time and attention … )

Never expect less than what you think you deserve! Begin to develop a new set of standards for yourself and who you choose to spend time with. Don’t waste your time and attention with anyone who won’t receive you and respect you, just as much as you intend on respecting them. Keep your eyes open for those who don’t treat you like you wish to be treated.

No matter how attractive a woman might be, be willing to step away from her if you’re not being respected. Right now there’s a woman just wanting and waiting to meet you. A woman who will respect you, support you, and give you thing things you need in life. You want this woman.

Show your honey-doll you are a guy who knows what he wants. You have goals, ideas for your future; you run your own life the way you see fit.

Develop your mind to match the thinking and harmony with that of your honey. Do all that you can to find similarities, common interests and loving chemistry in all the things you do together. Each of you should be able to predict one another’s moves, thoughts and actions. When you move, she moves and visa versa. You both truly are – ONE!

Grow to EXPECT these new changes to take place within you every day. I have a saying, “There is no hope (in my vocabulary).” You hope for things that are out of your control. Like, “I hope the flowers made you feel better.” You have no control over that, so it’s okay to hope, there. But, when it comes to YOU, there is no HOPE. There is only WILL! Because you HAVE CONTROL over that which you choose to change. So, EXPECT these positive changes to take place inside you for a better, stronger, more confident you in and around the woman you love. Starting right now!