Dating 101 – Do It Right! Four Very Simple Tips To Follow
BY BART SMITH, AUTHOR OF B.S. THE BOOK This little example is for those who might have just a little bit more anxiety when it comes to dating. First, journal on paper, all your fears, anxieties, past (negative) experiences, things that ever got in your way, things that we will want to wipe out through replacing old habits and negative patterns of thinking with new positive producing patterns of thinking!!!
(1) First-Impressions
Evaluate your Image/Physical/Clothing (Externals/Evaluate Them/Fix ’em!) Your OUTSIDE is your FIRST CONTACT with the WORLD without even opening your mouth! What messages are you sending the world with: how you look, how you stand, how you sit, how you walk, how you compose your physical self …
(2) Social Communication Skills, Manners and Etiquette
What are you saying? What are you NOT saying? How much are you listening, and NOT listening to the other person? How are you manners? Are you a gentleman (or a lady) in front of this new stranger and potential soul-mate? How is your tonality and voice projection? What choice of words do you use? Be selective, always.
(3) Intimate Communication
When communicating with your date on an up-close, one-on-one level, intimate communication skills are a must. Use calm and soothing tonalities in your voice and pace your speech just the same. Take it slow, enjoy the process of communicating with your date at this and any level. Mentally stimulate your date’s mind and curiosity with imaginative thoughts and ideas of story-telling adventures (involving the two of you). Slowly, eventually, stimulate your date physically with all kinds of foreplay. Don’t rush into things, enjoy the process. And, remember, you’re not there to find a conversation-buddy or someone to study with. Well, maybe you are! But, truth be told, you’re really there to find someone you can connect with on an intimate level and perhaps, be your soul-mate for life.
(4) Intimate Relations
Ah, but too soon does the moment come when the two of you just can’t keep your hands off each other. I think that’s called … passion. Yep! Gosh, how does one behave during the heat of passion? What do you do?/don’t do? What are the rules! Better yet, what are the LAWS! In my book, Laws Of The Bedroom: What Men Need To Know About Sex and Pleasing A Woman, I go into sensual detail as to what those rules, I mean laws, are when it comes to intimacy and pleasing a woman in ways she’s deserves to be pleased like never before.
You should become intellectually and emotionally
intimate before you become sexually intimate.
If I were to share some of what’s inside that book (for mature audiences only), I would have to say (to the men), "Men, she comes first when it comes to pleasing her and receiving pleasure (every time) before you receive yours! That’s the LAW!" You see, I believe it is important that we men, have our priorities straight when it comes to intimacy and pleasing a woman. She comes first in everything we do. She comes first, in our heart, in our mind, in our soul, in our life and … in our bed. It’s just that simple. And, the rewards for doing so? They’re incredible for both you and her.
Men need to allow a woman’s body time to warm up. You’ll also want to introduce things to her that maybe she’s never experienced before, but would like to experience with you. Then, always ask her how she’s doing, "do you like this?"; "how does this feel?"; "what else would you like, honey?" Ask and serve. In the end, she will be so overwhelmed with love and joy all because of the way you’re treating her that she too will go over and beyond what she normally would do just to please you and exactlythe way you’d like to be pleased in kind. See how that works? Yeah, I thought so. Pretty incredible stuff and it works every time!
Above all, take your time and truly enjoy yourselves. You’re with someone you care about. Show it. Prove it. Lead her into her wildest dreams. Take her on a physical journey into a spiritual valley of roses wet with her own body fluids pumping like she’s never experienced before in her life!
And, after pleasing her for quite a while, and just before she’s about to explode inside because you’ve taken so much time to warm her body up … She’s sure to grab, not so much ask, for you to follow through NOW! with your magic love making skills inside, slowly or perhaps with a little acceleration and excitement and well, … I think you know what I’m talking about.
We covered a lot just in that last section on, well, "you know what." Did you pick up any new ideas? I’m sure you did. What do you say we move on? If you would like more information about my other book, Laws Of The Bedroom: What Men Need To Know About Sex and Pleasing A Woman, just go to my web site:
Oh, just one more note on the subject of intimacy, no napping, sleeping, getting up or watching television or reading the newspaper right after a loving session of love making …
Snuggle, cuddle, massage each other, pillow talk, spoon with one another; do anything (together) before the both of you get up and do anything else. That’s the LAW!
