Build Up Your Woman From The Inside Out!

BY BART SMITH, AUTHOR OF B.S. THE BOOK

How true it is. THE #1 THING you can do to win a woman's heart forever and keep her yours for even longer, is to support her, root for her and help her fulfill her dreams!

• Women in today’s world crave attention, understanding and appreciation. Giver her all these things. Be the first (and the last) to believe in her from beginning to end. Never give up on her dreams.
• Get into everything about her from what she does for a living, to what music she likes, to her hobbies and interests and her favorite foods. Get to know the names of exotic and sensual clothing for the bedroom, perfumes, … everything. Study her; get to know her; get into her …
• Also, never brag or try to impress your woman with deeds, achievements or grandiose accomplishments. Never brag about yourself or toot your own horn. This isn’t necessary. She already thinks you’re the greatest man in her life. Why would you need to exploit that with false pretenses. It only comes across as being conceited and at times, even arrogant. Also, you can stop acting macho. I mean, are you a dumb gorilla or what. No you’re not. You’re a man, and your woman wants to be with a man, not an ape.
• Men who act macho or feel they have to brag about their accomplishments are the most insecure men on the face of the Earth. YOU are not insecure; you’re very secure in who YOU are. Your actions speak for themselves. You need not say a word, and your woman is impressed every time she thinks of you. Remember, what people lack on the inside, they have to make up for it on the outside by acting (oh, key word there) … acting tough and all macho. What crap. Women don’t want that. Guys act that way ’cause that’s what guys do (in front of each other) … “act tough!” Puke!
• When you make a mistake or do something wrong in her eyes, quickly apologize if you actually did do something wrong (which hurt her). That said, never intentionally hurt a woman. If she does not please you or you’re not getting that out of the relationship what you want, don’t say anything mean to her. She has emotions that run much deeper than ours as men. We are stronger to ward off emotional attacks than women. So be sensitive to her. Quietly get up, and walk out of the room. Never yell at her, never raise your voice, and never, ever, raise your hand … Again, if you did something wrong, definitely apologize. If you err, admit it. But, if you’re just trying to get something out her by “kissing up,” don’t do that. She won’t respect you for your behavior and neither will you later, after the fact. Be honest, be true and always be sincere in all your actions.
• Never argue with your honey. Never yell, scream or raise your voice. It’s unbecoming and labels you a potentially violent man. Stay calm, lower your voice, and keep your cool. Be patient, and try to see her side of the disagreement; whether she’s right or wrong, try to understand.
• Be interested in hearing her out – not (you) being right! That’s the last thing you want to do. If she’s right, listen and learn. If you’re right, allow your honey to speak her mind – completely! Then, when she’s through expressing herself and her heart, tactfully share your viewpoint, sample scenarios, examples and the evidence!
• Remember, you don’t want to be right … You want harmony – no matter who’s right or wrong.You’re a team, remember? One of you just needs more information. Tell her you love her and you want to work things out – and always without strife, disagreements, arguments and raised voices. All of that is so unnecessary. I’ve had quite a few people tell me, “Bart, I just can’t see you ever arguing with your woman. How do you do that?” Simple. I listen, I care, I don’t need to be right, we just need to be on the right page – together. That’s it. I don’t care who’s right, I just want what’s right for us.
• Never yell, scream or raise your voice. It’s unbecoming and labels you a potentially violent man. Stay calm, lower your voice, and keep your cool.
• If you’ve really had a bad day – don’t share it with her so fast. You might give her a “bad day” too. You know, like you went to court today, lost and now you owe the plaintiff $10,000 plus damages. Don’t bring that depression into the bedroom. Take some time off for you, yes. Meditate on that pain. Call mommy. She’s always listened to you and healed your hurts. Well, you know what I mean. Now, unless you’re married, your wife has the right to know about the events in your life if they affect the household. You’re a team, remember? But, if you’re dating, leave the (negative) business to yourself. Keep your date’s mind solely on you and (by nature) taking good care of you – that’s what you need, for sure.
• Be that special someone (she can turn to) to help her take her mind off her troubles and on to better things. Keep your negative thoughts, words and behaviors to yourself. Don't worry about YOU, those negatives always work themselves out for the better and/or just fade away with time.
• Leave your times and her thoughts positive (on you and about you). Or, at least soften the hard information with mild summaries of what really happened. Don’t scare her with every little detail. Yikes. That’s what the movies are for.
• Don’t flash your money around. Keep it in your pocket book or your wallet.??Don’t let people know how much they can steal from you if they get your hands on your wallet. Oh, besides it’s crass. What’s more, it’s not the money a real woman wants. It’s your love, attention and absolute affection she longs for. So, continue to work hard, pay the bills, provide for the home … because one day, unexpected, you might not have any money and your woman will be right there beside you. THAT is what you (really) want.
  And, another thing, let’s say you “forgot your wallet” when out on a date … if you have to ask your honey to foot the bill, be sure to reimburse her. Some guys (who invite women out to dinner, let’s say) play this trick to get the gal to pay. Don’t do this. From time to time, we all fall victim to an embarrassing moment or two. That’s okay. It’s not okay though to play tricks on your woman where money’s concerned …
• Become a “Gentleman” … Open doors for your honey everywhere, help her put on / take off her coat. Let your honey sit down before you. Pull the chair out a little and help seat comfortably. Before she gets up, you get up and help pull her chair out some so she can get out comfortably. If she drops something, pick it up for her. If she wants something, jump over mountains to get it for her.
• When dining, let your woman order first, or order for her first then yourself if you’re placing the order. Follow your woman when being seated at a restaurant or at someone’s home. Get the car when it’s rainy or wet outside so your honey doesn’t get as wet as you will!
• As soon as you start living in accord with these philosophies and new attitudes, you’ll find your woman drawing closer to you like you never before. Guaranteed.